This week I am picking back up from Part 1. I know I left you all in suspense so today I am going to pick up from where I left off.
After a couple of months of focusing on myself and just learning to love myself for who I am, I decided to do a little purge. I had to go ahead and let those safety nets go. You know those guys that you can always turn to whenever you are alone. I had a set of guys that I considered good friends in which I dated but for some reason or another the relationship never formed or worked out but you still considered them to still be good “friends”. Well, I decided that it was finally time to move on and just have a fresh start for myself. Can I tell you it was the best decision I ever made?
I had a new mindset and a new focus. I for the first time in a long time was just happy all by myself. I don’t have a sad life by no means and I had great friends and family. I even added a new puppy to the tribe so I was good. I was getting into the gym more and just still working and focusing on myself and my overall well being.
Well, one weekend in June I decided to go to this same event again. I just wanted to get out for a second and I knew a few people that were going as well so I decided to go. So I walk in and get myself a drink and go to my usual place where I like to stand in the crowd. So I am in my zone listening to the DJ play a few hits and this guy standing next to me says “Hey, I think I know you from somewhere” I looked at him and yes he looked familiar but I didn’t register him at first. Then he says “I remember you, but you had longer hair then”. I was like yea I did do a drastic cut to my hair a month prior for my birthday. He then goes on the say ” I met you in January ” and then it hit me. I did know this guy. I clearly remembered having a pretty good conversation with him back then and it just all came back.
He reminded me that I never call him and unfortunately I had to tell him that I never saved his number. He wasn’t mad about it or anything surprisingly and he offered to buy me a drink. So we pretty much picked up where we left off in our previous conversation. I was surprised that I even remembered a lot of what we talked about. This time it was different. There was just something about him that made me want to keep talking to him and I noticed that he was buying me a few more drinks. We were just standing there having a great conversation and listening to some great music. I was actually having a good time for a change.
I noticed toward the end of the night that he didn’t ask me for my number but asked me for my Facebook information instead and he made sure he sent me the friend request before the evening was over. So, of course, I accepted not knowing if it would lead to anything because I thought he was pretty cool. I didn’t have a physical attraction to him still but I liked the vibe he was giving off. Toward the end of the evening, I started to realize that I had a bit too much to drink so I called my Lyft and went home. Unfortunately, I didn’t even tell him goodbye so I hoped he wasn’t offended.
Fast forward to a day or two later. I get a Facebook message from him saying “Good Morning” and I was like oh wow I guess he wasn’t too upset at me leaving abruptly again. We started up a conversation and over the next week or two, we really got a chance to really learn more about each other. I even still noticed that he still didn’t ask for my phone number. So we continued to chit chat and finally one day he asked if he could take me out on a date. I was like sure, he seemed like a very nice guy so I was like why not. So we sorted out all of the details and set the date.
The day of our date comes up and I felt it was a good time to give him my number. Up until that point, he still had not asked so when I gave him mine he gave me his. So he picks me up and we go out to eat. My first impression of him was about a 6 out of 10 as far as the type of guy I would usually date. I decided at that point that I needed to not focus on looks alone that I really needed to focus on just the person. We get the restaurant and to my surprise, I actually had a very nice time. The conversation was stimulating and he was so courteous and chivalrous. It had been a very long time since I had gone on a date in which a guy treated me that way. I actually felt that I had his undivided attention and that he was listening and jotting down in his head everything I was actually saying. I was quite impressed by that. After dinner, we decided to go to another place to just talk some more and have drinks. At the end of our date, he took me home and walked me to the door and gave me a hug and asked if we could go out again. In my head, I was like wow he didn’t try to kiss me. So I said, “sure why not”. This was actually one of the best dates I had been on for a long time so at this point, he peaked my interest.
So I am going to end it here before this weeks post gets way too long. I hope you all tune in for Part 3. I really hope you are enjoying my journey so far. The story is far from over.